Understanding the Why Behind Your Divorce
What did I do wrong to find myself here getting divorced? Hi, I’m Tulsa family law attorney Keith Flinn. Well, it’s rare that you are solely responsible and I think it’ll be important to overcome the shame that is at the root of that question. Think of divorce less as a failed marriage and more as a new opportunity for you, a new beginning. That’s not to say that divorce isn’t expensive, complicated, and emotionally draining, but it will pass and probably so will the grief, guilt, shame, anger, and resentment that you’re feeling right now.
I want to applaud you for asking that question because I think it’s a healthy question to ask yourself and I think the self-inquiry that takes place after asking that question might dissipate if you undertake a healthy review. I think that kind of thing is best done with a licensed therapist that you trust. These are definitely not questions to have, you know, conversations with your spouse or your children or others that might not be protected by privilege or HIPAA.
Seeking Professional Help
Remember that statements that you make against your own interests can be used against you in court as an exception to hearsay rules. Finally, most, if not all, attorneys are not equipped to handle the inquiry that you’re undertaking and that’s why I would advise you to speak with a licensed therapist rather than your attorney. Also, licensed therapists are usually much cheaper than attorneys.
Again, I’m Tulsa Moms.Law attorney Keith Flinn. If you need assistance in navigating the emotional and legal complexities of divorce, feel free to reach out for a low-cost consultation by calling 918-770-7117.